Did you know that as a woman the only thing you aspire to should be marriage?
Well apparently that’s the only important thing in our life, you know finish school, find a man, produce children. And i mean there are women who also want it to happen that way and that’s okay, everyone has different goals in life but whats with the rest of us?
I have been single for 3 years now, you know what i did instead of searching for a man? I travelled to France, Bulgaria, Italy, got 2 jobs, found an amazing group of friends, went to parties, concentrated more on the music, experimented with my style, went to a wedding as a maid of honor without a date and survived, got an apartment, moved out, reconnected with my father, got 2 cats and now i got a blog. You know what has been said to me? “But i wish you would find a partner so you could be happy”
Why do people think that i am not happy? Because i am socialy awkward? Because i’m anxious? My anxiety and depression are something i’ve learned to live with and no man or relationship or marriage could change that or have some impact on it.
Most women are not appreciated for their skills but for how many men they have or have not slept with. I never heard someone ask me how many languages do i speak, what inspires me, what direction is my life going, what am i passionate about, where do i wanna travel next, the sad reality is that most questions i get are „ so when do you wanna get married“, „how many kids do you plan on having“ .
All my achievements were made without a man in my life, i never had a special support from a male, all my best memories were made with my girls or my family, all my worst moments were caused by men and no i don‘t hate men i met amazing men and had great times with men but did they bring me something remarkable? No. And i mean they shouldn‘t, it‘s not their job to do so. But it‘s also not my job to worship men and think that my life is empty without someone by my side.
So the conclusion is:
If i meet someone no matter of their gender who i feel would fit in my life and my needs and would wanna share their time and there is a breakthaking connection then i‘m down for it because i am not settling down for less.
However if i don‘t meet someone like that and i stay alone with my cats for the rest of my life then be damn sure that i‘ll have the time of my life.